I was born in North Carolina and I have made the choice to stay here. Maybe if I didn’t have so much family living here I might make another choice. My mom and dad bought a home one block away from me a couple of years ago. They spend most of their time living in this home so they can be near their children and grandchildren. My sister lives two miles away. It’s a choice we all made together. My sister and I made the choice in our thirties that we needed to be closer to share more of our lives together. I am now forty-one and couldn’t be more thankful for that decision. Besides my husband, my sister is my best friend. Who knew? Who knew that the curly headed, little monster of a sister would be this person to me? Who knew she’d ever like me after the way I brutalized her as a child? Did I say how thankful I am? Thankful for forgiveness. Thankful for sisters and thankful for family. Thankful that my husband was on-board for the transition. Everyone has a right to happiness. It’s finding what works for you…for your family. For me, I need my family close by and not just my immediate family. I need to have hugs and kisses from my nieces and nephews. I need them to know my kitchen pantry always has treats they want in there and that they feel comfortable enough to help themselves.
My grandparents lived five blocks away from me growing up and I made many a bike ride trek over there to see them. My grandfather would always give me the nod to grab the icecream out of the outside freezer so we could make our special milkshakes before talking about our days together. Grandmother was always dieting-like me now-and would quietly sit next to us while we sugared ourselves up.
Having my dad close by has been a surprise blessing for both son-in-laws. They both appreciate the novelty of my dad. They broke the mold after he was born. He’s the man you call when you have a question…when you have a problem. He will find the answer. He will bring a truck or a tool. I love looking out into my backyard on a Saturday morning and seeing my husband and dad working on a project together. Besides, somebodies got to help that husband of mine. 🙂
I am now reliving my childhood with my parents so close. My mother has every sweet imaginable available to her grandchildren and always a special treat for her girls, also. My sister and I like to treat ourselves to a Diet Dr. Pepper at mom’s house or if we are feeling especially rotten, we ask her to make us a grilled cheese sandwich. Yep, My life is full. For me, I needed my family living close to me. It makes me a better person. It makes me a better friend to my friends. It makes me thankful. I am rooted in North Carolina.
PS-I am hosting my husbands side of the family for Christmas this year! Almost everyone from both sides will be with us for Christmas this year! So thankful, for real.