Complacency leads to a life less fulfilled. It fools us into believing we are doing things right. When we don’t push ourselves to be more and to do more, we are short-changing ourselves and others around us. Before 2017 begins I am really evaluating my life and the things I want to accomplish. Without knowing the final deadline date, (as none of us do) I need to jump on it. With that more in perspective, I’m eager to set a new pace.
Sometimes all it takes is a new point of view to remind us that life really isn’t a picnic for everyone. It can be so easy to see only the perfect facade displayed. Self doubt and insecurity can wreak havoc on a person’s psyche and hold them back. Thoughts that people have it better than, are smarter than, skinnier than, can be destructive and halt our own forward progress. That’s when perspective usually strikes.
I was quickly reminded yesterday morning of that very thing. A close friend lost her sister. It felt like a sumo wrestler sat on my chest and sucked the breath out of me when I heard the news. I couldn’t fathom her pain of losing a sibling. The last year plus has been so much about my grief, my sister’s pain, and my mom’s survival. It’s been a lot of Me. Me. Me. Damn it. People come out of the wood work when bad things happen, too. So many of us share the same types of loss. Yes-it’s a part of life, but it doesn’t mean it’s okay. It doesn’t make it easy. We all struggle in our own ways. Some are better at hiding their pain, while some (like me) wear it and write it all over.
But life is meant to be felt. Pain can often create growth. I know I’ve learned to be more compassionate with people through my own grief. I would like to think that I’ve learned to be a better friend, because mine have been amazing. It has taught me how important it is to keep checking in on people and their lives. We can miss so much when we don’t ask.
Complacency is the easy way and not the direction I’m going to follow in my life. Life is beautiful and a gift. It’s often hard, but through it, we can become stronger. We can be better. We can have a new and better perspective. When my days feel like they are getting easier, I question what I’m missing or doing wrong now. I wonder what else I should turn my attention to. I want to really kick ass in life so when I take my final breath I can feel like I really lived it. I hope this life is ready, because I have this feeling that I haven’t been doing it right.
Bring it 2017!